Couples do different things after a break up and may depend on the kind of break up they had. If the breakup was a mutual choice, there’s a possibility the couple can reconcile or be friends. It’s much harder to do while this is also possible with couples who’ve had an impulsive break up. But if a few weeks after a breakup, you find yourself saying, ‘My ex boyfriend wants to be friends, what should I do?’, find out his likely plans and how to tackle this situation.
Friendship is not bad and it’s all right to be friends, especially if you had a friendly break up. If you ask, ‘Why is it that my ex boyfriend wants to be friends with me?’, perhaps it’s just because he believes you two are better off as friends than lovers. Friends are always good to have and it’s alright though you see that you two don’t talk much and are really more of laid-back acquaintances after that offer of friendship. Somehow, your break up ended in a lighter mood.
If he started the break up and you still wanna patch up, you may think, ‘Well, my ex boyfriend wants to be friends, but I want to be more than friends’. To be honest, deciphering a guy’s intentions is difficult but always assume that he just wants to be friends to be safe. When you do this, you can stop expecting too much assuming that he’s using the friend excuse just to get close to you. It’s alright to be friends if you do wanna get back together but don’t expect too much.
You may say, ‘My ex boyfriend wants to be friends, but I’m still hurting’. If you haven’t gotten over the break up, it’s okay to decline the offer of friendship. You are more likely to get hurt seeing him enjoy his life as a single guy if he’s moved on already. As friends, he will also be highly visible to you when he starts dating again and if that will just hurt you, it’s better to not be friends. You can probably accept his invitation someday, but not while you are still emotional.
On the other hand, another typical situation is ‘My ex boyfriend wants to be friends but I don’t know if his intentions are clear’. This can happen to girls who broke up with their boyfriends and their ex wants to be their friend so they could still be a part of their lives. You may accept his friendship provided that you make it clear to him that all you can offer at least for now is friendship only. But if you also still have feelings for him, this can be a springboard to squaring off and will be a good means for you two to connect without the problems from relationships.
The next time you ask, ‘My ex boyfriend wants to be friends, what now?’, bear in mind that friendship is good but you should enter it with the good intentions also. While you may not know precisely what your ex’s aims are, it helps if you make your aims clear to him from the get go.
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